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He lost touch with his brother after joining the Navy; 35 years later, he's hoping to find him

Carlos Rosado last saw his brother Michael in the mid-1980s.

Rosado, who grew up with Michael and an older brother in a foster home in Ivoryton, Conn., was stationed at the Naval Submarine Base in Groton at the time, but lost touch with Michael during the course of his 21-year career in the Navy, which took him all over the country.

Now, 35 years later, he’s hoping to find his brother, a search that regained steam more than 10 years ago when he received a letter from his foster mother saying Michael had contacted her. He said he was in the Washington, D.C., area and was being released from a psychiatric hospital and wanted to get back to Connecticut.

Rosado and his five siblings ended up in an orphanage in New Britain and then various foster homes after their mother was diagnosed with schizophrenia when she was in her twenties.

“Our father just couldn’t take care of us,” said Rosado, who now lives in Texas.

Rosado’s sisters went to Puerto Rico to live with family, but he and his brothers stayed in the foster care system in Connecticut, including living together in the foster home in Ivoryton until Rosado graduated high school and joined the Navy.

“Growing up, I had no indications of him having any mental health problems,” Rosado said of Michael. “He was a normal kid.”

The last the family knew, Michael went to Anaheim, Calif., to try out for a minor league baseball team. No one heard anything after that.

That was until about 10 years ago, when Rosado received the letter from the foster mom whom he and Michael lived with in Ivoryton. She’d received the call from Michael several years earlier saying he was being released from a psychiatric hospital and wanted to come back to Connecticut, but she didn’t have current information for Rosado. By the time he got the letter and called her several years later, she couldn’t remember many of the details of the conversation with Michael.

Rosado decided with the little bit of information he had to search his brother’s name and Washington, D.C., on the internet, which turned up a news article about a Michael Rosado being arrested by the Secret Service in 2006 for making threats against the Bush family.

“I don’t know if that’s him but it matches up with when he told our foster mother he was trying to get out of a mental hospital,” Rosado said. “I tried to call the people who worked the case but they were no longer working there. I had no information to go on with only knowing his name.”

Rosado said he and his siblings — two brothers and two sisters, all of whom no longer live in Connecticut — have tried in various ways to locate Michael, “but we came up with nothing.”

Around the time Rosado found the news article, he saw a Facebook post of a person holding up a sign with information about a missing family member. He read the comments on the post and discovered the family had located their loved one, so he decided to give the tactic a shot.

He posted a picture of himself about five years ago on Facebook holding up a sign that said he and his siblings were looking for their brother, Michael Rosado, who at the time, they had not seen in 25 years. He grew up in Connecticut, went to Valley Regional High School in Deep River, and was potentially in Hartford or New London about five years prior, the sign said. He would’ve been about 52 years old at the time, the sign said, and about 5 feet, 10 inches.

While the Facebook post was shared 3,000 times, Rosado said, “nothing really solid came out it.”

Recently, the post started recirculating on Facebook, which is how this reporter found out about the search. Rosado isn’t sure why the post is gaining traction again, but appreciates any interest in finding his missing brother.

At this point, he said, his only option is to hire a private investigator, but that's expensive and he doesn’t have much information to go off of.

Asked whether he’s thought about what it’d be like to finally see his brother again, Rosado said, “For the most part I would be overwhelmed with emotions of happiness and regret."

He'd be happy to finally have found him but would regret "all the years that were lost," and maybe feel "a little guilt because maybe we should have tried to keep in touch better."

"I would want to know what he’s been doing all these years and why he didn’t try to reach out and find us,” Rosado said. “But knowing he was probably dealing with some type of mental issues, I wouldn’t push the issue too hard. You can’t find a person who doesn’t want to be found and not in the right frame of mind.”

Rosado hopes his brother would remember him and his siblings, but knows that if he's battling mental health issues, that's not a given.

"That would be so sad and disappointing if he didn't remember us," he said.

j.bergman@theday.com

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