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    Sunday, May 12, 2024

    For Jill Butler, home is more than a place to hang your hat

    Author Jill Butler will lead a workshop in Mystic on Thursday. (Photo by Lisa Bousquet)

    Helping people transform their living spaces into warm, inviting, beautiful homes that celebrate their unique personalities and passions is one of the many things Jill Butler does that brings her joy.

    The artist, illustrator, designer, creativity coach and owner of Jill Butler Art & Design in Chester will give the next presentation in a self-improvement series hosted by Bank Square Books titled “Create the Space You Deserve,” which is also the name of Butler’s book on which her workshop is based.

    Butler is also the author of “Paintbrush in Paris,” “Rendez-vous with France” and “Wandering Paris,” all inspired by her 16 years living in the City of Lights.

    The following is a Day interview with Butler about her book, design philosophy and upcoming event at the bookstore on Jan. 19.

    Q. Do you find that people don’t always realize what a difference their dwelling can make in their mood, sense of peace and tranquility and connection to themselves?

    A. Here’s one of the things that’s happened — it’s that people see their homes as a place to live and they buy these places for retirement or just for the money, an investment to flip, etc. And some people get really mad when the market turns down. I say to them, ‘Do you feel good in this space?’ It’s more than a roof over your head.’ I believe some people do see it as just a roof over their heads. The attunement with your home is hugely supportive in your everydayness because it’s your sanctuary. It can be as (simple) as a wonderful cozy chair with a footstool — and maybe a bookshelf next to you — that becomes your sacred space.

    Q. Why is it so important to “clear the crud,” as you say in your book? And why is it so hard for people?

    A. A signal of when we’re not invested in our homes is when we don’t take the time to clear up the clutter. Here’s the deal. When we look at our feelings about why it’s making us uncomfortable (to get rid of stuff), for example: ‘I don’t know where to start, and why bother? So I’ll sit down and watch Netflix or read a book and (ignore) it.’ After we look at the feelings, we need to start with the benefits of clearing. I can’t move forward without knowing what my assets are and what’s dragging on me. When you identify what really matters — that’s what you’re going to keep. We hold on in fear thinking we might need something someday, maybe. And, we all need to be released as the keeper of someone who didn’t take the time to really do the clearing of (his or her) clutter.

    Q. People are often insecure about choosing colors for their homes and end up playing it “safe.” What do you suggest people do to educate themselves about using color?

    A. When in doubt, ask for help. Now you can take a picture of your room, go to a paint store, and they can put it in a computer and show you what it will look like on your walls. Here’s a real tip: never look at a color flat. Hold a paint chip up vertically like a wall because that’s the way the light is going to hit it. Another thing is, look at what you like to wear. What’s your favorite color? What color(s) make you happiest? You can start with a small room and you don’t have to paint every single wall. And if it’s not working well, guess what? You can change it.

    Q. Can you talk about making “a mind map” as another helpful tool for creating the space, the life, you deserve?

    A. Yes, it’s about visualization, saying, ‘This is what I want.’ Are you trying or are you wanting? Trying is a big fat nothing. Listen to people around you. I’m trying to change this or that. How’s that working for you? It’s about really wanting it and watching our language, which really affects the outcome. I am wanting to create X. I am seeing it in my mind’s eye ... doing this is very exciting and quite manageable.

    Q. Why do you say, in your book, “Being perfect is ‘perfectly’ boring”?

    A. We think we have to have it all figured out before we do it. We have to have a house that’s perfectly staged or dressed. Being perfect is an illusion, a prison. I think it’s about fear. Where’s the excitement? Where’s the risk? For example, you’re sick and tired of how your living room looks, so move the furniture around. It costs nothing. See how it makes you feel. Perfection assumes everything is in place forever and it’s boring if you think you never get to change it. It’s fun to mix it up.

    Q. Can you tell us what you’ll be doing at Bank Square Books?

    A. It will be very hands-on. We’ll play with some ideas and see where people are stuck in their homes as it reflects in their lives because you can’t separate the two. Your home is your life, your center. We’re going to have a conversation, share insights, and get playful!

    Jill Butler illustrates how to make a “Mind Map” in her book “Create the Space You Deserve.” (Contributed)
    Cover image of "Create the Space You Deserve" by Jill Butler (Contributed)

    IF YOU GO

    What: “Create the Space You Deserve” workshop with author Jill Butler, who will sign copies of her book after the workshop.

    When: Thursday from 6 to 8 p.m.

    Where: Bank Square Books, 53 W. Main St., Mystic.

    Cost: Tickets are $35 and include a copy of Butler’s book, “Create the Space You Deserve: An Artistic Journey to Expressing Yourself Through Your Home” as well as an exclusive gift. Complimentary wine and hors d’oeuvres will be served.

    More info and tickets: Visit http://www.banksquarebooks.com/event/jill-butler or call the bookstore at (860) 536-3795.

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