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    Saturday, April 27, 2024

    Second Baby Guilt

    At almost six months pregnant (does someone care to tell me when that happened??), the reality of what is going to happen in 4 months becomes more...well...REAL. So, besides the obvious - we're going to be having a baby - there is also the very distinct possibility that we will still be living with my in-laws (depending on some new house options we are deciding on). And then there is what I really want to talk about - this second baby thing is sometimes bittersweet.

    Some days, maybe when the hormones are running a little higher than normal, I seriously worry that I am ruining Little Man's life. He is absolutely the complete center of my universe. By NO MEANS does he get everything he wants when it comes to things, but he does get every single ounce of love and affection he could ever want or ask for.

    So here we are having another baby, that is not only going to take away from Little Man, but is also going to want every ounce of love and affection from me too.... How do I do it?

    I remember the first couple of months with Little Man - on the boob all the time, sleeping all of his naps on me, it was wonderful. Except now I will have a toddler to tend to. A toddler who loves me soooooooo much. A toddler who probably is not going to be real keen on sharing me (although I am told he is the most gentle with the new baby at daycare). And I am going to have a baby who I am not going to be able to hold all the time. I have a feeling there will be a lot more babywearing going on this time around.

    I don't know - is having a second baby the ultimate in Mommy Guilt? Am I over thinking this? Can I chalk this one up to hormones too? Did you worry about this when you were pregnant with your second? Just tell me it all worked out and everyone is well-adjusted and happy. MmmmKayThanks.

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