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    Thursday, May 02, 2024

    Your Turn: Father-daughter storytelling a treasured memory

    Child development professionals agree that reading and telling stories to children builds motivation, curiosity and memory. It also helps children cope during times of stress or anxiety, and creates a relationship with books and fosters a sense of being loved and nurtured.

    As a small child, stories and books were a slim bridge between my father and me. He could be an eloquent speaker if he was engaged in a discussion about the meaning of some bit of Bible scripture, but he was not a conversationalist about everyday events. Most evenings after supper, he withdrew into the Encyclopedia Britannica until it was time for my brothers and me to go to bed. Then, at our bedside, he magically became an animated storyteller of tales by Thornton Burgess, along with Bible stories.

    I don’t remember that he held a book, but it was dark. As I pulled the covers up to my chin in the blackness of our tiny room with barely enough space for our three small beds, he would start with a dose of biblical lore, perhaps Daniel in the lion’s den or Jesus with the moneylenders, and then launch into the adventures of Sammy Jay, Blackie Crow, or Mr. Toad. The details were precise. I could see the forest creatures in their hats and vests as Dad spoke. I imagined them cavorting in the woods outside our window.

    The next day my brothers and I combed the backyard for evidence that Uncle Billy Possum or Bobby Coon had been there. My older brother might spot a dent in a tree and shout, “Yup! You see that! Reddy Fox did that, bumped into it on his bicycle.”

    I would strain my eyes looking for Reddy’s bushy tail disappearing among the ferns as he slipped off into the Green Meadow. By some kind of magic, my father told these stories as if he had witnessed Brer Rabbit falling into the briar patch or Gruffy Bear reaching into the beehive for honey. By age four, I yearned to read so that I could check the facts in the books that contained pictures of these antics against my father’s version.

    My father’s enthusiasm to tell us stories at bedtime shimmers in my memory. It was my most comfortable time with him during my childhood. Other aspects of his parenting remain vague in my memory. He didn’t give advice other than describing the consequences that arrived for Biblical characters who strayed from their faith abandoning the Green Pastures. After that, the storytelling moved swiftly on to the personified animal adventures in the Green Meadow. He never proselytized to us about the joys of reading. He just read and read.

    Years later, at age sixty, he accidently fell thirty-five feet from a roof he was shingling. He survived but was unable to read and restricted to lying flat on his back with metal screws securing his head and spine. Reading books out loud was the most comfortable way to be with him.

    I read to him because I didn’t know what to say about the apparent permanence of his injury. His optic nerve was damaged and his spine crushed. He listened to my stories intently and thankfully. The readings were possibly the only distraction he had from the growing reality that he would live the rest of his life unable to walk or read.

    Weeks of my readings passed, and one day something provoked his desire to tell me stories again. This time they were his stories, not Thornton Burgess or sages of the Bible. These were the untold stories of his childhood. Finally, I met the sadness and ferocity of his life in an impoverished family during the Great Depression after his father was killed in an automobile accident on the New London Bridge in 1925. He compared himself to Job in the Bible, but also described the adventures he had with his brothers in the woods of Ledyard hunting for food and making fun at any opportunity.

    Once again, I was listening to my father restored to his most radiant self — a storyteller — but now I could better understand his need to balance the Green Meadow with the Green Pastures.

    Experts say that stories and books take children to places they’ve never been. Thanks to his true stories, my father took me to another time I could never know otherwise. We finally comfortably conversed during that last year of his life and recognized each other as book lovers, storytellers, and great fans of each other.

    Ruth W. Crocker is a freelance writer and author living in Mystic. Visit her website at ruthwcrocker.com.

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