What happens to a moment deferred?

Does it slip through the cracks of YouTube, never to be replayed? Retire to the island of old tweets to shrivel in the sun? Or does it quietly gather a viral army of followers too big to ignore?

The secret may lie with Amanda Seales, a comedian (and actress, and singer, and poet and painter) who after nearly a decade is finally undeniably having a moment.

Perhaps you caught her schooling Caitlyn Jenner during Katy Perry's "Dinner and Discourse" last year? How about her scene-stealing one-liners on HBO's "Insecure"? Or her appearance on "Def Poetry Jam"? The stint as an MTV VJ? The guest appearance on Q-Tip's last album? Opening for the Roots? Delivering that unapologetically black stand-up set on "Late Night With Seth Meyers"?

"I've had a couple of breakouts," said Seales, 37, during a recent interview at the Watergate Hotel.

She just wrapped her "Smart Funny and Black: Lituation 101" tour. That's the live black-pop-culture game show Seales dreamed up in her living room, and it has landed, among other places, in the plush and rarefied halls of the Kennedy Center. The show is a live Quidditch match of wits mashed up with SNL's "Black Jeopardy" sketches and a three-piece band.

Confused? Basically it's quintessential Amanda, who for years the entertainment industry's gatekeepers just didn't "get." She bursts onto the stage wielding a microphone and gold lamé leggings, the evening's "headmistress." During the show, two famous folks (Tiffany Haddish, Estelle, Bomani Jones and Angela Rye have been guests) compete for the title of "Master Blackspert" by debating categories handpicked by Seales such as "baby hair" and "in da streets Barack Obama." The show's tagline: "By any joke necessary."

It's a celebration of blackness, and most dates on the tour sold out. That's because of Seales, who has nearly half a million followers on social media, where she loves being her "authentic self" and her frequent posts — calling out racists, bad boyfriends and her domestic shorthair Lando Catrissian — have bolstered her career as a truth-teller who tells jokes.

The popular comedy tour is a big friggin' deal, okay? This is also a familiar runway for Seales — being wheels up, poised for takeoff.

"When you're so multitalented," explained Seales's friend, SiriusXM host and fairy godmother to many Bevy Smith, "it's very hard for the entertainment industry to get it because they like you to have one note until they tell you to try something different."

Seales was first poised to break out in 2004. Then a 23-year-old hip-hop head from Orlando, she'd been hired to host "Sucka Free Sunday" on MTV2. It was her first brush with fame and paying rent when the rent's due. The buzz was palpable.

Broadway star Brandon Victor Dixon, Seales's "brother from another," tried to prepare her for what was coming. "Are you ready?" she remembered him asking in an intense stage whisper.

"It was so dramatic," recalled Seales in between laughs. "And I was like, 'For what?' and he was like: 'For. Your. Time.' " She cackled. "And within a year I was laid off — but it was a moment!"

It took Seales 10 years to get back to that level of fame. "Ten long subway train years," she said. In between she made her own music, painted political art, produced funny Web series about pop culture and gave college lectures about street harassment. (Seriously, that MTV money paid for the last semester of her master's in African American studies at Columbia University).

"I'm an artist through and through," she said. "My thing about creating things is that it has to do two purposes: It has to serve me creatively but also has to serve the people."

In 2011, another moment came. Hip-hop didn't feel like home anymore. So she decided to dive into comedy for real. She changed her stage name from Amanda Diva ("it just felt stupid") to her government name, Amanda Seales.

"I have a theory that when you're lost on the path, go back to the beginning and try the maze again," she said.

If there's one thing Seales does not do, her friends say, it is wait for permission. At least not anymore. One network executive told her that she was "just another dumb talent" and that she seemed more like a "sidekick" than a lead. After being told by countless others that they simply didn't know what to do with her, Seales had yet another aha moment.

"I don't need to change. I just need to diversify my realness," she explained at a question-and-answer session two nights before her big show in Washington. The crowd, gathered at the Wing, reacted with snaps and umm-hmms.

The Georgetown pit stop was a testament to just how diverse Seales's particular (and quantifiable) brand of realness is.

On social media, she's about authenticity. Really. That's not a studio line or a gimmick. "I really just be in my house," she explained to the crowd at the Wing, referencing her prolific "PSAs" in the form of no-makeup Instagram videos about "empowering your ego" and self-care. "And I'm single, so there's time."

Spend even a short amount of time with Seales and you can see why folks either love her or - well, she doesn't really care about the other side of that proposition. The unfollow button is there for a reason. Her Instagram bio: "I'm not 4 everyone."

"I really mean that," Seales told me later.

She might not be "everybody's favorite box of cereal," said comedian Roy Wood Jr., another friend, but that's the point. Seales has "built a career on swimming the other way," he added.

"Amanda's that relative who could come to Thanksgiving dinner and say, 'Hey, ya'll, I got something to say,' and everybody's like, 'Uh-oh.'"

Of the 23 shows on her "Smart Funny and Black: Lituation 101" tour, 20 have been sold out. Is that success to her?

"Exactly what I'm doing is what success looks like," she said. "I get to create on my own terms, on my own timeline, and I'm able to support myself and my mom and my cat comfortably."